Warren JOSEPH Gray

WARREN "MANER" GRAY
03/05/2007
24
CATFORD
6 BROTHERS 3 SISTERS NO CHILDREN BUT A LARGE FAMILY AND GIRLFRIEND WHO LOVED AND CARED FOR HIM
MURDERED (SHOT)

WARREN WAS A CARE FREE GUY, HE WAS VERY PRIVATE BUT AT THE SAME TIME A VERY LOVING, CONCERNED AND CARING INDIVIDUAL.
HE LOVED HIS FAMILY, HIS GIRLFRIEND, HIS MUSIC AND HIS DOGS.
HE ENJOYED LIVING LIFE, HE KEPT HIMSELF TO HIMSELF.
ANYONE WHO KNEW HIM WOULD TELL YOU THAT HE WAS A NICE PERSON AND HAD A CALM AND LAID BACK PERSONALITY.
HE HAD A SMILE THAT WOULD MAKE YOU MELT AND HAD A PASSION FOR MUSIC. HE WAS LOVED BY MANY AND WHERE EVER HE WENT HE BROUGHT JOY AND HAPPINESS ALONG WITH HIM.


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Bereved Parents Wish List

I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him back.

I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my sons name. My son lived and is very important to me. I need to hear that he was inportant to you also.

If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my son, I wish you knew that it isn't because you hurt me. My sons death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my son and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.

Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.

I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child; my favorit topic of the day.

I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my son's death pains you too. I wish you would let me know these things through a phone call, a note, or a real big hug.

I wish you wouldn't expect my grif to be over. These first years are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my son until the day I die.

I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my son and I will always grieve that he is dead.

I wish you wouldn't expect me 'not to think about it' or be happy; neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.
I don't want to have a 'pity party', but I so wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.

I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.

when I say, "i'm ok", I wish you could understand that I don't feel ok and that I struggle daily. I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions i'm having are very normal. Depresssion, anger, hopelessness and overwelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when i'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and crankey.

Your advice to take it one day at a time is excellent advice, however, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that i'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.

Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get of. when I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.

I wish you understood that grief changes peopl. When my son died, a big part of me died with him. I am not the same person I was before my son died and I will never be that person again.

I wish very much that you could understand; Understand my loss and my grief. But, I pray daily that you will never 'fully' undeterstand...... mum